From Sleepless Nights to Restful Sleep: How a Doula Became a Life-Changing Sleep Coach

In today’s post, we’re diving into the transformative power of holistic sleep coaching and family-centered sleep strategies—approaches that not only help babies sleep through the night but also empower parents and support entire families. Unlike traditional methods that rely on harsh, separation-based techniques, holistic sleep coaching offers a gentle, responsive approach that nurtures both child and parent, leading to sustainable sleep solutions.

By the end of this article, you’ll discover how Tami, a former doula turned successful sleep coach, utilized six key responsive sleep strategies to guide a family from the depths of severe sleep deprivation to peaceful nights. These strategies are carefully designed to build parenting confidence and promote attachment-based sleep solutions tailored to each family’s unique needs.

Through this journey, you’ll gain insights into how our Holistic Sleep Coaching Program has equipped hundreds of professionals to make a real difference in their communities—becoming more than just sleep coaches, but true life changers. If you’re curious about how to implement these strategies in your practice or with your own family, keep reading. If you prefer to watch the full story, you can do so by clicking on the video below.

Making an Impact with Holistic Sleep Coaching

Tami, one of our dedicated holistic sleep coaches, continually receives incredible feedback from her clients. During one of our recent coaching calls, she shared a particularly challenging case that highlights the transformative power of holistic, family-centered sleep strategies.

A family reached out to Tami for help with their baby, who was waking an impossible number of times—every 20 minutes throughout the night. It was a situation that couldn’t have been more dire. The father was away for work during the week, leaving the mother to manage alone with twins, one of whom was neurodivergent with significant sensory differences. The mother, describing herself as ‘broken,’ was at her wit’s end.

Using her extensive training and empathetic approach, Tami conducted a thorough sleep history with the family. She identified several areas to address, including feeding challenges, maternal mental health struggles, poor sleep timings, and a lack of developmentally appropriate play opportunities. Understanding how overwhelmed the mother felt, Tami was careful to frame her suggestions as opportunities to optimize sleep, ensuring the mother didn’t feel further burdened. While the situation was severe, Tami’s realistic and compassionate approach set the stage for progress.

A Sleep U-Turn: The Power of Responsive Strategies

Just two weeks later, after the baby was seen by an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) and some key adjustments were made—including changes in positioning, a new bedtime routine, and age-appropriate play activities that involved the older twins—the baby began sleeping significantly better. The mother, who had been struggling with postnatal anxiety, also sought additional support from her doctor. The result? The baby started sleeping a long uninterrupted stretch at the beginning of the night, followed by just two brief wake-ups. The mother described herself as feeling like a new woman.

This case illustrates a vital point: many parents aren’t necessarily seeking for their child to sleep through the night entirely. What they truly need is a sustainable solution that allows for better overall family well-being—something Tami delivered through her holistic, responsive approach.

So, how did Tami achieve these amazing results? Let’s break down the six key strategies she used.

The 6 Key Strategies Tami Used to Transform This Sleep Situation

1. In-Depth Sleep History: Uncovering the Root Causes Tami began by taking an in-depth sleep history, a crucial first step in holistic sleep coaching. She knew exactly how to ask the right questions, which helped her uncover areas needing additional attention or a referral. This thorough approach ensured that no aspect of the family’s situation was overlooked, laying a strong foundation for the customized sleep plan.

2. Collaborating with Specialists: Staying Within Her Expertise Although Tami is a qualified breastfeeding peer supporter, she recognized that this mother needed specialized support. She referred the family to an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) to address feeding challenges that were deeply intertwined with the sleep issues. This collaboration exemplifies Tami’s commitment to staying within her lane and ensuring that her clients receive the best possible care.

3. Strength-Based, Compassionate Coaching: Building Trust and Confidence Tami’s sensitive communication skills and empathic approach to sleep coaching were vital in this situation. The mother was already overwhelmed and desperate, so Tami took a strength-based, counseling approach. Rather than overwhelming her client with a long list of dos and don’ts, Tami offered compassion, positivity, and practical advice. This approach not only addressed the immediate sleep issues but also helped build the mother’s confidence.

4. Realistic Expectations: Aligning with Developmental Norms One of Tami’s strengths is her ability to set realistic, age-appropriate expectations. Her deep knowledge of infant development, feeding, and normal nighttime behavior allowed her to create a plan that was both appropriate and sustainable. By managing the family’s expectations around likely results and timeframes, Tami ensured that everyone involved remained hopeful and committed to the process.

5. Customized Sleep Plans: Tailoring to Unique Needs Using her extensive knowledge of sleep biology, Tami crafted a bespoke sleep plan that aligned with the child’s unique biology, temperament, and sleep requirements. She considered the child’s variable sleep needs, optimal timings, and circadian rhythms, ensuring that the plan was not only effective but also tailored to the child’s specific situation. This level of customization is a hallmark of holistic sleep coaching.

6. Family-Centered Connection: Fostering Togetherness and Co-Regulation Finally, Tami employed a family-centered approach that prioritized connection, cohesion, and co-regulation. She involved all members of the family, including the siblings, ensuring that everyone’s emotional and psychological needs were met. This approach not only improved the child’s sleep but also strengthened the family’s bonds, creating a more harmonious home environment.

Through these six strategies, Tami transformed from a skilled practitioner into a truly exceptional sleep coach. Her training with the holistic sleep coaching program equipped her with the knowledge to seamlessly integrate science with empathy, enabling her to guide families toward optimal sleep without relying on traditional sleep training methods.

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So today, I’ve shared how Tami transformed her approach from being a nanny and doula to becoming a fully booked sleep coach by training with the Holistic Sleep Coaching Program. She utilized six core strategies to help a family in a severe sleep crisis find calm and rest.

If you are passionate about supporting families with a blend of empathy, compassion, and evidence-based practices, we’d love to hear from you. The first step is to book a call with us to see if our program is the right fit for your goals. Simply click the link below to schedule your strategy session.

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